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10 Rules For Amazing Sex

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	"A perpetually giving, accommodating lover can be as tiresome as a demanding one."

1. Foreplay
The importance of foreplay cannot be stressed enough. Remember it is not just the destination that counts it is also the journey. Orgasms are great, but the entire experience adds to how earth shattering an orgasm is. So kiss, caress, tease, nip, tickle and drive each other crazy. The more you arouse your partner, the greater the payback. Foreplay can start hours, even days, before you actually get down to it, with naughty notes, erotic films or books, suggestive glances, glimpses of lingerie, or arousal that you simply refuse to share until you decide it's time. Make sure the build-up goes from exciting to excruciating before you actually get down and dirty, and note the difference in the passion.

2. Know thyself
We aren't living in the world of corsets or boarding schools, so, if you have any inhibitions, check them in at the convent. If you are solo, absolutely enjoy your own body and learn to pleasure yourself, and if you are part of a couple, do the same. Getting to know what moves turn you on makes you enormously sexy and confident in bed, and allows you to teach your partner how to make you go wild.

3. Variety is the spice
Lou Paget writes in The Great Lover Playbook: 365 Sexual Tips and Techniques to Keep the Fires Burning All Year Long, that variety is not just the spice of your sex life; it is the meat, potatoes, and veggies that make a wholesome meal. Try to get out of the box, whether you are vanilla, kinky, or something in between, try the opposite of what you normally like - maybe handcuffs or blindfolds for the meek, or the simple pleasures of spooning sex for the normally adventurous. In addition, you really can have sex in places other than the bedroom or even your house. Being in the outdoors or in public places can offer the chance for some incredibly sexy quickies.

4. Work with your hands
The range and delicacy of touch and precision that your fingers and hands can bring to your lover's body is never-ending. Work those fingers, to caress, smack, and shag - whatever comes to your mind. (Just watch out for dirty or long fingernails.) Your lips and tongue do the same thing so go ahead and toss his or her salad. Let no place be forbidden or out of bounds.

5. Nipple play
Whether your partner is a man or woman, remember that nipples have many nerve endings, so playing with them can be among the most arousing things you can do. It is great foreplay, interplay, and some women even orgasm just from having them caressed.

6. Give a little, take a little.
A perpetually giving, accommodating lover can be as tiresome as a demanding one. So mix it up. Sometimes devote yourself totally to pleasuring your partner in every way they want. At other times let them know what you want. It is a saucy, intimate, and confident move to make, and guaranteed to encourage hot, monkey sex.

7. Get out the toys
Rings, clamps, vibrators, strap-ons, restraints, and harnesses might feel dirty and excessive to you now, but bringing them into the bedroom can add an edge to your pleasure ante by helping you experience new sensations. You do not have to be embarrassed about buying them either; there are many quality stores online that ship and bill your toys discreetly.

8. Role playing
It is a brilliant idea to pick a super sexy movie or book and pledge to try out all the steamy parts in sequence, maybe even following the story. Really getting into role-play is a way to explore different aspects of your sexuality that you are otherwise too shy to reveal. Having sex in new ways is always mind-blowing, and pushing your boundaries can teach you a lot about yourself, your partner, and your sexual style.

9. Oral satisfaction
Disregard the fact that Clinton once disqualified oral sex as a part of sex. Not only is oral sex a big part of sex - giving or receiving it feels extremely good. So practice your moves and learn the secrets that lie in those velvety folds or the secrets that those throbbing veins want to tell you. Attention: all men should approach the clitoris with caution, as it is an extremely volatile little button. Women, the phrase "giving head" should tell you the importance of the helmet of the purple soldier.

10. Eat well and exercise
You aren't doing your libido a favor with junk food, stress, or weak knees. A lousy diet is low in nutrients, which control everything from your energy to your hormones. Is it any wonder that most of the aphrodisiacs we know are fresh food that is lightly prepared or raw? Eat fish, fresh fruit and vegetables, nuts, and whole grains and you are good to go any time. Fatigue and stress make the idea of getting it on seem utterly pointless, so learn relaxation techniques such as deep breathing or yoga. Yoga helps in other ways, too, as do cardiovascular exercises and strength training. If you want to be adventurous and try out new positions or have marathon sessions, you are going to need to be in top shape physically, so hit the gym before you hit the sheets.

Comments (2)

Posted by: lawal kolawole (01/15/08)

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