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Book By: Chip Ingram
Choosing your path
Would you rather have Hollywood's view of a lasting relationship or God's?
The problem today is that the Hollywood view is everywhere. The concept of "true love" has been idealized in our visual media, books, songs and even seminars. Why then, asks Chip Ingram, author of Love, Sex, and Lasting Relationships, is true love so elusive?
As a possible solution to this problem, Ingram, a well-known radio and television teaching pastor, offers the God formula approach to relationships. The Hollywood formula focuses on attracting another person to complete yourself, the God approach focuses on becoming your true self first.
Popular culture
Ingram's book begins with a powerful examination of how popular culture has affected the way we look at relationships. It deals with how the media have created different expectations of relationships and how we are often trapped by these.
He suggests that, like the Holy Trinity, love has three main components: those of the spirit, mind, and body. Ingram calls these agape, phileo, and eros: selfless love, a beautiful friendship, and physical love.
Relationships need a balance of all three if they are to survive. But, somewhere along the way he says, we have started confusing sex and love, and this is where the trouble all began. But now, his book offers a chance to "say 'yes' to love and 'no' to second-rate sex."
Dealing with sex-saturation
Sex is talked about as an important component of all relationships. Ingram touches upon why "sex is such serious business to God." He discusses ways in which sex and sexuality can be kept pure in a "sex-saturated society."
Sex outside the marriage is also dealt with as a key problem area. Ingram offers non-Biblical reasons as to exactly why this is so -- targeted directly at people trying to live in "adulterous denial."
It is this frank and all-embracing discussion of relationships that lifts this book from mere idealistic instruction. In fact, Ingram's honest approach to sex has been popular enough to warrant Sex 180, a new book by Ingram and Tim Walker about sex and sexuality for students.
In both worlds
Love, Sex & Lasting Relationships offers both the adherence to the teachings of a higher power and the knowledge that life in the trenches is sometimes more gritty reality than spiritualism. This knowledge creates a book that provides both the instructional - that can be put into action immediately -- and the aspirational -- that can be used to set relationship goals.
There is much down-to-earth strategy to attract members of the opposite sex and relate to them. It even tells readers how to know whether what they are feeling is love or just infatuation. And once the relationship is underway, Ingram discusses why being able to differentiate between love and sex "makes all the difference."
Many readers find they become instant Ingram fans, and the best place to keep in touch with his writing is at Walk Thru the Bible (www.walkthru.org). Ingram is the president of this site and it offers many resources and products for religious and life instruction.
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