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"How to move on and how to know you're ready"
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They say time is a great healer, but in the moments after a painful break up it seems to be your worst enemy, moving painfully slowly as each second pierces your heart with a thousand arrows. Moving on after a break-up, in many ways, is the toughest thing to do. It is not just about getting over a relationship, but also about picking up the pieces of your life and making a fresh start. After a break-up, it is common to experience a cycle of undeniable emotions.
Denial
Some events can be so excruciating that denial is the first emotion you face. At the time you may think that all that is happening is just a small hiccup, that the break-up will not last, and that it is only matter of time until you are back together again. This is a particularly painful stage as places, people, and even small things can bring back memories of your time together. What you do need to remember is that is all there is left - memories. What's over is gone and now it is time to look forward and move on to the next phase of your life.
Anger and Irritation
You can't believe you wasted so much time and effort on a partner who didn't appreciate you. You are angry with yourself, your ex, and the world in general. You promise yourself never to let anyone hurt your emotions in the way they are hurting right now. You build a wall around yourself and curse yourself for not being able to see the signs that led to the break up.
Sadness
Your self esteem takes a beating after you've been dumped. Someone who validated your presence has actually turned around and told you that he or she doesn't care about you anymore, let alone love you. It is a bitter pill to swallow, but what you should remember is: if someone leaves you for someone else-it is not your fault. Just because in a library filled with classics, someone chooses Dostoevsky over Hemmingway, doesn't make Hemmingway a bad writer.
Moving On
So you think you are over your ex, but how do you really know that you are ready to move on? It is the simple things, like when you meet an attractive man or woman and don't compare the person in front of you to your ex. Depending upon how bad the break-up, it will take weeks and sometimes months to get over the feelings of pain, betrayal, and loneliness. Even if you see or hear something that brings back memories, it is okay-don't take it as a sign that you aren't ready to meet new people. Accept your relationship as a learning tool and cherish the precious memories you had. The important thing is that you resolve all the anger, pain, insecurity, and intimacy issues that you may have before you move on because you really don't want to carry a ton of emotional baggage on your next date.
Some sturdy sympathetic shoulders will be needed during this crucial phase so make sure you have plenty of friends and family around for support.
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Copryright © 2007 eRomance.com
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Posted by:
Alwaysandforever
(11/19/07)
Nothing can compare to the heart-rending pain of adultery from a spouse you trusted with all of your soul. Only God knows the real extent of your terrible pain--And ultimately only he can cure such depth of anguish--Turn to him and be healed--Good Articl
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Posted by:
sincere
(01/22/08)
dear its for you
hope you will find it useful.
dont reply dangerous
friend
gill
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Posted by:
Nelly
(02/11/08)
It has been such a great lesson to me.Keep up and help more other people.
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Posted by:
vincent
(06/27/08)
forgive and forget
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