Tired of "Let's Just Be Friends"?
" Stop thinking like a 'friend' and take control of the situation. "She makes your heart beat faster and your inhibitions drop. And then comes the dreaded line that is fatal to any budding romantic relationship: "Let's just be friends?" Your love interest treats you as just one of the guys while you want to take your relation to a more romantic and committed level. So you have had enough of just being friends and taking it slow and want to know how to progress from being a lover to being a friend. To begin with stop thinking like a 'just a friend' and get ready to take control of the situation. It is time to work on an action plan that will help the relationship get charged and decide its fate. This is now a 'do or die' situation so either you find out if there is a chance of a relationship or it is time to move on.
Turn on the Charm
As 'friends' you usually avoid much physical contact and it is time to put an end to that. You feel that you are meant for each other; if only you could make mad passionate love to your 'friend' and ensure that they see the relationship as it should be. However like all good things take it slow. Make physical contact while you chat and catch up with each other. Hold his hand or tuck a stray hair strand in place. Physical contact is the primary criterion that distinguishes a friend from a sweetheart or lover. Position your body in a manner that shows that all your attention is on your 'friend'. Make eye contact and hold it for a few seconds and then linger on his or her mouth. Maintain a distance that doesn't seem to aggressive but just enough to let you have the upper hand. Let him or her want to kiss you the way you want to and then let the moment cast its enchanted spell. It is time to make clear the desire you feel, and that too in no uncertain terms.
Stop Treating Him or Her as A Pal
Irrespective of the "Let's be friends?" stance stop treating your sweetheart as just one of your friends. Do you find yourself spending snatches of time during the morning or afternoon hours? Well, avoid meeting only during the day but make certain that you spend time during the evenings and later. This is a more romantic and intimate time and adds magic to your efforts.
Control the Situation
Decide how you want to handle the situation and start calling the shots. Friends create a comfort zone while lovers excite and challenge. So get the adrenalin shooting and get out of the no-good friendly comfort zone. Choose situations and activities that challenge your would-be partner. There is nothing like sharing a new experience that brings two people together, so plan some time away from your usual routines. A weekend spent skiing, camping or white water rafting can open up your 'friend' to the real nature of your relationship. Also physical exertion is bound to lead to some sparks and sizzle.
No Talk of Friends
The more you talk of other members of the opposite sex that you are just friends with the more it will seem natural for your love interest to see you as just a friend. To be taken as more than a pal you need to behave the same way.
Keep the Mystery
Let them do most of the talking so you don't give away all your secrets, you need a few cards up your sleeve to dazzle and delight. A romantic relationship at its start is fuelled by the excitement of discovering each other. So if you know each other inside out there really isn't anything left to explore. Don't be the friend that he or she comes to unload the day's tension. However if this be the situation you find yourself in then handle it concern and affection of a lover and not a friend. Massaging the shoulders of the day's weariness is a sure shot way to get the message across.
You need to send subtle and sometimes blatant messages that you are ready to move from 'just friends' to 'more than friends' for you don't want to be the buddy in the background as your love walks into the sunset with someone else.