how inappropriate it sounds, break up. the other day, i told my date we aught to split. she wept and cried like it was a lifetime's realtionship. i'd known her for four days. what's with women? she said she thought she was the one because i gave her a photo frame. how does that become permanent. actually it was a recycled gift. i didn't like it, didn't ahve the place to store it, so gave it to her. it became a big deal.
I get tempted to look the other way when a woman cries. I remember my college days when I used to actually find girls crying very funny. Now its okay. I've learnt how to deal with it. All you need to do is to hold them tight and they feel better.
But women are not that dense, either. ONe of the things a female can see through most of the time is artifice. Anyway, if that is your experience, who am I to argue? I find that a bit brutal and emotionless , though
If she's going to cry she's going to cry. One thing I've noticed is I've had enough of crying (after I've communicated that I do care about her) is say something like "well I'm going to fix us something to eat. You can join me when you feel ready." This lets her take as much time to be as emotional as she wants and I don't have to pretend to understand why she is doing it. I can just watch a DVD until she is ready to talk like a grownup. In my experience, this technique works better than anything else because you are not reinforcing neurological dependency patterns.
If you have a habitual cry for attention type, she will usually cry as loud as she can manage. Don't bother turning up the DVD, it won't last long. When you don't come running to her rescue she will realise that throwing a tantrum will not get her what she wants.