Maybe its even harder for us women, because we can't use male bluster to cover up our real feelings. and there are so many kinds of breakups - I think I've seen the worst in divorce.
I think it is equally tough for men, we just have different ways of expressing it. Women are more open with their emotions while men are more controlled.
I have seen it on both sides of the stick, I have been hurt a lot and have probably unfortunitly done some hurting as well, I have to say both guys and gals both feel it somewhat the same