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what's wrong in dating two at a time (12 posts) |
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MARTHITAP SAYS: |
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Hey, don't me wrong, I'm not two timing anyone. i've been going around with this guy for a while, and suddenly, a good looker comes in. See? he's the kind quiet sort. my boyfriend's very loud, you know. and I find him, the new one, so attractive. I can't make up my mind whom i like more. what to do?
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SANDRA_COLE SAYS: |
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Test both! Yeah, I'd do that. No sense in promising to be together for ever and ever unless you're dead sure.
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DOUBLEHAPPY2005 SAYS: |
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Err, can a man get a word in edgeways on this one? In many ways we are remarkably similar to women. IN other words, if we discover that we are one of two choices being juggled, how do you think we react? By trying harder? No ma'am - we do a preemtive strike and dump before WE are dumped. Don't push your luck.
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NATALYA77777 SAYS: |
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Yes, but its really okay before you're really committed. Once you're committed, you'd better stick to the man. We aren't shopping for clothes here you see...
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MARTHITAP SAYS: |
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oh, absolutely. it's because we're aren't shopping for clothes that we need to be triply sure. i'm not promoting disloyalty.
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FORTUNATEMAN SAYS: |
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I wouldn't advocate it either. I was sort of disloyal (emotionally only) to my wife seven years ago and it almost ended in divorce. The point is - if we are serious about someone, there is no room for playing the field. we have the choice to committ or not, but none after that.
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SPIRITOFNE SAYS: |
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Hi MARTHITAP ____________________
How would you feel if the new guy was dating someone else too__________________________
Or then again how about if your current boy friend was seeing someone else too._____________
You see, It works both ways.____________________________________________________
It seems that for women its ok to date two guys at once cuz your not commited (your only window shopping) but its not ok for the guy to do this. I have found this to be true in my many travels though Cyber dating sites. I think if you risk it , you may find youself here full time and maybe for the rest of your life.
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SEED SAYS: |
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I'd like to add something here, and it may not be a comfortable thought. But why don't you go ahead and try two-timing sometime and see for yourself? There are conscience issues to overcome that you will be alone with in the depth of the night that will speak to you far more loudly than any of our opinions. We can usually fight people who call us phoneys - but we can't fight that message when it comes from within.
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LOVERNOTFIGHTER SAYS: |
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I can speak from personal experience - that is so true. I could never hide from the inner accusing voice when I went off the field. Yes, the excitement of doing someting that was plainly wrong sweetened the deal for a while, but finally I had to face myself and my wife - in that order.
But I guess life is the best teacher, after all. We must all find our own way to timeless truths.
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JULIUS SAYS: |
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I believe it all depends on how commited you are right now with the 1st guy. If it is not serious then go for it. But if there are any kind of serious feelings coming from both of you, than be straight with him about the situation. Honesty is always the best path.
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CRAZY SAYS: |
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There is no problem...as long as it is just dating and you arent oficially "girlfriend and boyfriend" Its how it used to be done and in the end is better I think, it's a good way to figure out what you are looking for.
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LIFEROLLSON SAYS: |
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why don't you just relax and stop worrying? you should do what your heart tells you to - after all, that is what love is all about. you can't love two guys with the same intensity. just go for the winner
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