Improving the Odds for a Happy Marriage
" Every relationship has its share of tribulations "Are you anxious about the future of your relationship? With so many marriages ending in divorce, your apprehension is not unwarranted.
With practice, patience, and some effort you can enjoy a blissful marriage. Here is some help to beat the odds:
Most couples enter into matrimony with unrealistic dreams spurred by glamour magazines or television soaps. Married life is not a bed of roses; it has its highs and lows. Learn to accept each other's shortcomings and imperfections. Focus on the good aspects of your relationship and don't dwell on the negative ones. Learn to compromise to keep each other happy.
Admit you need each other
A few years down the road most couples start taking each other for granted. Even a "thank-you" or "I love you" is hard to come by. Acknowledge your partner's contribution in your fulfilling relationship. You don't have to wait for Valentine's Day to let your love know how much you value him or her in your life and how much you care.
Keep the romance blooming
Don't let mundane chores, kids, and the work stress bring your romantic life to a stand still. Romance is a vital ingredient of a successful marriage. Don't allow work to rule your life. Rekindle the spark in your marital life. Plan some time exclusively for the two of you to be together. Surprise your spouse with a romantic candle-light dinner. Go for long walks, exercise together, and laugh over silly jokes as you did when you were newlyweds!
Spice up your sex life
Physical intimacy adds the much-needed zing to marital life. Sex becomes a predictable and boring routine a few years down the road. Do not feel that you know it all! Be innovative and willing to experiment. Communicate frankly and learn what makes your partner attain nirvana!
Utter words of praise about each other
It is easy to criticize each other when you go wrong, but a few words of appreciation help to nurture a relationship. Let her know how well she manages the multitasking at home. Thank him for spending time with the kids despite his busy schedule. Admit that she really looks gorgeous in that black outfit.
Always be there for each other
It is fun to share success, wealth, and happiness, but to support your spouse in testing times is the real challenge. Be the pillar of support for each other during career disappointments, financial hardships, ill health, and emotional lows. If a marriage does not fulfill your emotional desires, you may tend to stray by looking for an emotional anchor elsewhere.
Seek professional help if you need it
Every relationship has its share of tribulations. It is human to make mistakes. Marriage is a complex relationship; you may need help to solve the mysteries and understand its intricacies. If you sense that your marriage is going downhill, seek professional help before it is too late.
A successful marriage is not the result of just living together under the same roof. It requires a desire to make it work. It needs an investment of time and effort to improve the odds of having a good relationship. It is a challenge that you face head on. Despite the fact that divorce rates are on the upward swing, remember that marriage is a solid institution where love can grow and last for a lifetime. A good marriage ensures the sanctity of the bond and provides a security and contentment you can cherish forever.