Keeping Romance Alive After Marriage
" Nurture the friendship and intimacy in your relationship "Do you fondly reminisce about the wonderful days of your courtship? How your heart pined for him and longed for his tender touch! How her sensuous caress melted you into submission Now you are happily married and settled down. Of course you are in love-but that spark of excitement is missing. The reality of life, work, family, expense, and dirty laundry has overwhelmed you so much that you don't seem to have time for each other. Do you long for those romantic never-ending candle-lit dinners? And the moments when time stood still while you had all the time in the world only for each other? Well, the good news is that it is not as tough as you imagined to keep the romance alive after marriage!
Romance: A necessity
Do not view romance as an isolated event or a luxury you cannot afford everyday. Romance springs from friendship and intimacy. Allow it to blossom and spread its fragrance in your day to day life as you mature in a relationship. Being together may add years to your life, but romance will add life to your years together!
Never assume that romance will happen overnight. Nevertheless, romance is not something you can always plan on your PDA. Spontaneity is the key! A warm embrace when she comes home dreary from work, a tender peck on his cheek, a sensuous stroke of the nape of her neck, or a fiery kiss at the most unexpected moment can do wonders to ignite dormant passions in the heart.
Break the monotony of a drab everyday routine. Arrive early from work unannounced (with 2 tickets for her favorite evening show!) and watch her bask in childish glee! Gift him (for no reason) that baseball cap he had his eye on while window shopping the other day. Slip cute love-notes in his pocket before he leaves for office. Surprise her with sexy lingerie or a bouquet of her favorite yellow roses. Throw caution to the wind and gorge on that chocolate fudge both of you find irresistible!
Spend time together
Plan some time exclusively for the two of you to be with each other. If you have kids, beg your mom to baby-sit for awhile. Better still; pack them off for a camp. Grab a sack full of munchies, get cozy on your couch and watch a favorite video together. Play a fun card game, share silly jokes, and have a hearty laugh. Let nostalgia grip you as you scan your old photo albums. Let Sinatra serenade you as you slow dance in the middle of your living room. Plan a short mid-month getaway to go skiing, trekking, or fishing! Don't take each other for granted. You know you love and care for each other, so say it! A simple "I love you" or "you look wonderful, darling" can jazz up your marital life.
Try to look good
You have nothing to lose if you take care of yourself, eat the right foods, be healthy, and look good. Grooming yourself not only makes you attractive to your partner, but makes you feel good about yourself and helps you radiate charm and confidence. Take care of hygiene, be clean and neat. After a tired day, smelly feet, messy hair, and sweaty pullovers do not kindle romance! Be active, read a lot, participate in social interactions, exercise, pray, and meditate for your mental, spiritual, and emotional well-being. Share and explore common spiritual interests or discuss issues you feel strongly about. Emotional intimacy enriches any relationship.
Turn procreation into recreation
Physical intimacy adds a zing to your marital relationship. As years go by, do not relegate sex to being a monotonous routine or only a means of procreation! Make some efforts to keep the good times going! Engage in impulsive romantic interludes and rediscover each other while you let your imaginations run wild. Once in a while, pretend that you just met each other and get naughty. Join him for a sensuous hot bubble bath. Adorn yourself in that sexy itty-bitty lingerie, snuggle up close to him and whisper sweet nothings in his ear as you seduce him for a passionate night ahead.
Nurture the friendship and intimacy in your relationship, devote some time exclusively for each other, spring surprises for each other -- and life will be a never-ending love affair!