The Five Love Languages
""Book By: Gary Chapman
You are a hard-core English speaking American. Your spouse understands Mandarin. Can you imagine a situation where neither of you can communicate your love to each other in a mutually understood language?
Gary Chapman has unearthed a fantastic theory (from practical life experience) about the five languages of love. Did you know that we all have a love tank that we need to refill everyday, or that we all speak five different types of languages to express our love? Using real-life examples, he explores each of these languages in a unique and interesting style. If the husband is more of the plumber type who likes to repair leaks for his wife, he speaks the language of "Acts of Service." If the wife anticipates a quick hug or a peck on the cheek, she is the "Physical Touch" kind. If she expects a bouquet of flowers occasionally, she believes in the language of "Receiving Gifts." Are you amazed? Similarly, there are other examples like "Affirmation" and "Quality Time," as explained by Chapman. He believes that sometimes the root cause of a failed relationship is because we all speak a different love language or rather we express our love emotions differently, in our own way. The crux of the book is to help couples enhance their relationships by understanding each other's language of love and try to synchronize the same for mutual happiness.
Dedicated to all kinds of couples, the book is an easy, fun-to-read guide that mentors couples to discover their own, as well as the spouse's, love language through his small questionnaires and special questions in each chapter. The process is made easy by explaining the importance of love language and how you can learn your spouse's language, too, so you can satisfy his or her love needs. It works wonders for troubled marriages and has helped many couples to renew their broken relationships.
The book is based on Christian ideologies. Largely, however, the philosophies presented here are applicable and acceptable to people of all religions and faiths. The language sometimes is heavy-handed, albeit not too trying. Some of the theories are oversimplified and repetitive.
Despite this, the book is a must-read for all couples to enhance the depth and the length of their bond. Be it the self-guide or the "burnt toast" syndrome, it adopts an interesting perspective to love. If your love tank is full with your love language, you feel secured and motivated towards life; otherwise, the feeling of emptiness depresses you; this is a wise insight by an even wiser man. Here is your chance to learn a new language-the language of love-the language of your spouse's love. Whether it is English or Mandarin, as long as the language of love is common, you should have no problems.