7 Principles for Making Marriage Work
""Book By: John Gottman, PhD.
For all those couples who want to avoid turbulence in their relationships or get back on track, this book is a better bet than is any marriage counselor. Equipped with deductions from his love lab, interviews of hundreds of couples, quizzes, exercises and the works, the book is an exceptional opus of the PhD. author John Gottman. Unlike the superficial remedies of therapists, the theories and solutions are quite accurate derivations from his intense research and experiments. If you thought that the reasons for marriage break-ups are communication gaps or extra marital affairs, you might be enlightened after reading this.
In this book, the author has revealed four inevitable symptoms of a troubled marriage. The study provides a 7-point outline for making marriages work by coping with these conflicts. The book busts many divorce myths and gives several examples of how couples resolve their differences by preserving each other's respect and honor and thus consolidating their relationship. It shows how many problems that apparently seem irreparable can actually be resolved. The scientist with a romantic soul remains surprisingly down to earth without overdoing his philosophies.
More than anything else, his practical guide is a compilation of his extensive and commendable research of over 25 years adopting a scientific approach to marriage. The author has paved a proven path to successful relationships through various experiments and his own philosophies. Through questionnaires and exercises, he helps locate the strong and weak aspects of a couple's relationship that render a deeper understanding of themselves.
From the cynical point of view, the book is not too modest and impedes autonomous thinking by the reader. Nevertheless, it is a great mentor that can prevent you from making mistakes and help to bring the zing back in your marriage by deepening the emotional aspects in the couple's life together. It helps consolidate a failing marriage and turn it around. No wonder it has already helped many a couple reinvents their lives through wonderful insights and solve the mysteries of marriage. This book is a must-read for all couples.